Black Diamond Self-Talk

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Tune In! A Spiritual Radio Transceiver

The Brain

      I was again amazed today, when I found that thoughts I just had were echoed by a post by two different people I know, at exactly the same moment they were creating their work, but each at two different times today. It is exactly like we were thinking the exact same thing, at the same time. But, the emotional thoughts I experienced were disconnected from the stream of thought I was having at the time, and were momentary diversions.

      In the first instance, I was looking through a site that has 13 million photographs for a picture for a blog post. In order to be effective, I've found that searching on terms relevant to either the headline and/or content is helpful in keeping this task quick and efficient. I don't have all day to find a good picture. As I choose my picture, this other picture really caught my eye. It was a thought I had received from the ether, telling me that this other graphic, although not on mark for what I was doing right now, would be perfect to something else. I took a mental note of that, but was not driven to select it and download it now, but to perhaps return later. I have subsequently seen this exact picture on another's blog post, which was clearly posted just after my experience at the photo site. When I saw it, I instantly recalled my contemplation earlier and inspired to include the story in this week's lesson.

      The second instance was similar. In addition to the photo site, there are other social media services that provide pictures that can be used for a meme or blog posts, or even marketing and advertising copy. I was in the process of scanning one of these when I experienced the very same emotional thought. My attention was drawn to a picture, that was not relevant for what I was researching, but impressed upon me that it was great for another purpose. The purpose was beyond my grasp, at the time. But, when I saw the graphic in use, just a couple of hours later, my emotional thought was completed with the notion that the effort was completed and the desire effect fulfilled. Upon reflection I believe I experienced excerpts of the process used by another, and the completed message was mentally communicated significantly before I actually saw the finished product. I believe I heard the echo of their epiphany or aha moment.

      Like tuning a radio, our thoughts scan the frequencies for sympathetic vibrations. The more people that identify and echo a thought, the louder the volume. The volume can also be increased by using stronger positive emotional bonds on the thought. Squelching then negative emotions, which often drown out the positive thoughts, also helps to increase the positive volume. Amplifying the positive emotions through habitual reinforcement is crucial to avoiding distraction or outright derailment.

      Unlike radio, proximity seems to have little role. We can be a world apart, yet experience the vibration inside. I think this can be called spiritual, too. It is deeply internal, yet, at the very same instant, it is extremely external, reaching across space and time.

with gratitude and in service,

Tony Koker


P.S. How often have you said Your self-talk today? Tune Your mental harmony for Your success now.


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Sunday, January 26, 2014

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Monday, January 06, 2014

Time Always Wins

Ruled by the Clock

      Time always wins. Tick, tock, tick, tock time marches forward. Sooner or later, we will stop, but it will not, just like taxes.

      Awareness. Are you awake enough to know what you're doing? Often I find myself in auto-pilot. I find myself focused only upon what I have to be doing. The alarm goes off. Maybe I can snooze it, once or twice, but mostly I have to resign myself to getting up and getting ready. Have I mastered that task list that determines my fate, or am I following someone else's lead? Have I convinced myself that satisfying their demands also serve me and my family and friends? These are questions I find time to ponder and attempt to use a slight edge to implement.

      Always busy, doing something. Even sleep is something. If I don't get enough sleep, I cannot think clearly enough to be sure I've taken a vivid review of the task list.

      Wasting time, productive use?

      Productive is also subjective. Productive for whom? Them or you and yours?

      The order is important, too. Priority and time both need to be considered. Some things have windows of time where they need to be accomplished. Some things are preparatory - they need to be done in advance of some point in time, like a scheduled meeting. Others have to be done now, like right after a meeting, to capture what steps will need to be accomplished before the next meeting or event occurance. Of course priority should never be ignored.

      You and Yours, then short-term emergency, or, at lease, short-term priority escalation or life-long priority? Emergency or short-term priority escalation, in relative terms, that I use, relates to this whole concept of being able to really only perform ONE task at a time. And, manage but a handful of tasks. This handful should be the most important. Survival, comfort, luxury, perhaps that is the order you choose? Or, do you consider it more noble to forego some level of comfort for the survival benefit of others?

      Even survival is subjective. Water, food, clothing and shelter likely lead the list, but the whole requires much, much more. There's the physical, which was just (mostly) addressed, but there is also the emotional and the spiritual. How often do we neglect or even fail to recognize these? True work and life balance really requires that we find opportunity to satisfy the needs of the whole.

      So. Are you really multi-tasking? Are you really busy doing what's important to you? Or, are you just busy, doing just enough, and passing time to a future event (looking forward to something)?

with gratitude and in service,

Tony Koker

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Thursday, January 02, 2014

Getting Ready to Get Ready

Getting Ready to Get Ready

      One of the personalities we discuss in our thrice weekly calls is called Green. Although we all exhibit traits from all personality colors, we have a primary or root color. I am a green, primarily. This has been great for me as an engineer and for making plans, but it can be a handicap for working with people. I believe, however, that by reviewing my habit when I have successfully turned these plans into successful execution, I reveal a method for getting out of a mode of getting ready to get ready.

      I plan. I do this well. I can anticipate all of the possible challenges and threats and devise countermeasures to overcome or avoid them. This is often the place where I get stuck. So, I have to move on and decide that the blueprint is sufficiently robust and just move on.

      When I envision the outcome, truly see it in my mind, I create a point of focus. The more vivid the picture, the more intense I can believe in it's realization. I picture the result in many of its stages and the initial framework is built upon to finally reveal the finished product. Layer upon layer of progress is illustrated in my mental motion picture.

      Now I must jump. I need to take action. All of the well worn habits of preparing need to be done now: getting dressed properly, packing my bag, leaving the house, and must be done with mechanical, automatic process.

      I GO. I do it. I get into a zone of execution. I rest. I resume. I focus on the images of my mental motion picture, of the finished product, and just keep in action mode. Are you like me and get stuck getting ready to get ready? Or, have you progressed to action and success?



with gratitude and in service,

Tony Koker

P.S. With the help of others in our mastermind group, I hope to relate similar breakthroughs for the obstacles encountered by the other 3 personality types. And you can also join in this process with us:

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Wednesday, January 01, 2014

Resolve a Habit of Persistence


      My life is perfect. Everything is like it should be. A picturesque summertime float on a calm, crystal clear lake. The sun out with but wisps of clouds in the royal blue sky. Not too hot, not too cold. I want for nothing. Friends and family surround. Laughter and reverie abound all around.

      Then, there's that sound again. It sounds like a knock on a door. Is it another distraction, or, another opportunity?

      I wake. Dream over for now.

      I have to return to the task at hand. Do I continue working, or, do I pause and consider making a decision?

      Now is not the time to rethink. I am in work mode, now, today. Back to the formula. Just execute. Saying my self talk I am able to regain focus.

      Clickety clack, clickety clack, like a train going down a track. The knocks on the door fade away. I'm returning to my zone.



      I recently became reacquainted with a verse in scripture. It has resonated so well with my self talk, that I have printed it out, hung it on the wall, and have added it to my daily self talk routine:

           "... I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down ..." Nehemiah 6:3



      Persistence and focus seem to intertwine themselves with each other. These are crucial as I succeed with any resolution.


with gratitude and in service,

Tony Koker

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